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How to Arrange a Threesome: Simple and Working Guide

How to Arrange a Threesome

Dreaming about a threesome is pleasant, but having it is even better.

To make this experience memorable in a good way, you can use our instructions on how to get your perfect threesome and avoid losing your current partner, which can happen even before everything starts. So, here are the steps you should take to successfully arrange your first or next threesome.

Step 1: Separate Real Sex from Fantasy

Separate Real Sex from Fantasy

To make sure that you need it, you should forget everything you saw on the hot videos and take a more realistic look at the threesome. Porn doesn’t show the true image of how a real ménage à trois takes place: it can be awkward, it can be over in a flash because someone has changed their mind, it can turn out to be a bad experience. We recommend reading and viewing the videos of people who had such an experience and are ready to share with you all the unpleasant moments of a threesome and preparations for it.

You should understand that you have to prepare for it, discuss it, and think twice before making the next step.

Related: Tips for a First Date

Step 2: Discuss It with Your Partner, if You Have One

Discuss It with Your Partner

This step is the most challenging one, as you should at least feel or know for sure (which is much better but not always possible) that your partner wants it, too. Otherwise, you can offend your beloved one with an offer to share a bed with someone else, especially if it is your friend.

You should talk about your desires, expectations, and, well, what you will do after that.

Step 3: Find the Third Lover and Discuss Everything with Them

Find the Third Lover and Discuss

This step is tricky, too: you can find someone you two haven't met earlier (and the one you are not going to see again), a person you already know (or even a friend), or a couple if you are single. All combinations have pros and cons:

  1. A new person. A great option for those who want to try a threesome for the first time. You can even find someone experienced, and they will help you to prepare for it. Additionally, you can delete the number of that person and never see them in the future, which is perfect for a married couple. A quick tip: pick someone who is less hot than your partner so as not to cause future problems in a relationship and silent sadness of your beloved one.
  2. A friend. A good option for experienced people, and for those who are likely to feel comfortable with a close person. Beware: sharing a bed with a friend can jeopardize your friendship and relationships with your romantic partner.
  3. A couple. This option is the most exciting, as you are not going to suffer from quarrels with your spouse if they don’t like the idea of a threesome. Additionally, it is easier to find a couple that has already ridden the third wheel a few times.

Use sex sites to find a partner or partners. This is much better and easier than approaching someone with “Let’s have a threesome!” in a club.

Step 4: Make Some Preparations

Make Some Preparations

First of all, ask your future partner(s) to pass an STI test to make sure they will not cause you trouble. Second of all, get condoms. Seriously, get a lot of them, as you are going to change condoms each time you change partners during sex for safety reasons. Then, choose a place where you want to spend a good time. It has to be a comfy location where everyone can relax.

And, finally, take some water with you to bed—you will need it.

Step 5: Stop if You Feel You Don’t Like It

Stop if You Feel You Dont Like It

You don’t have to make yourself do anything related to sex, as this is a process that should bring joy, not pain or discomfort, both physical and mental. Additionally, each time you try to do something you don’t want to, the level of frustration is growing, and you can suddenly discover that sex doesn’t bring you pleasure anymore and you don’t want it at all.

Wrapping Up

Now, you know the basic rules of how to arrange a successful threesome. The only thing we want to highlight is that you have to make sure you are going to have safe sex. We mean, both mentally and physically. Ask yourself one more time if you need it, and if the answer is yes, don’t hesitate and do it!